A Different View on the Concept of Modesty
A New Understanding of Modesty Beyond Scriptures and Beliefs
In this world of trickery, stillness is what your soul wants." Rumi
Through the lens of humility, we can truly grasp the essence of modesty. Introspection becomes our guide, revealing our flaws and biases. We may uncover our unconscious prejudices and preconceptions, such as beauty standards or dress codes, prompting the need for self-correction. This self-awareness is the cornerstone of modesty.
Moreover, we may realize the ego's desire for validation through outward appearances and shift our focus toward inner worth. We develop a more balanced self-image by looking beyond the surface and acknowledging our talents and areas for improvement. This reflection, in turn, helps us become more conscious of the impact of our actions and words, leading us to make thoughtful and compassionate choices.
Self-observation is a crucial catalyst for modesty. It empowers us to comprehend the ripple effects of our actions on others. It instills in us a deeper appreciation for our strengths and a willingness to address our weaknesses. By acknowledging the necessity for self-correction, we evolve into better individuals, positively contributing to our communities.
Our technique is not some ancient, mysterious secret buried deep within lost monastic scrolls. Instead, it is accessible to us right now by accepting our limitations and understanding our mechanics. Most importantly, we need to find the place within ourselves that welcomes these opposing forces and not be afraid of what we discover.
No Quick Fixes
There are no quick fixes when it comes to self-improvement. It requires establishing good habits and maintaining a positive attitude as we navigate our days. It's a journey of gradual and continuous improvement. Don't hesitate to make the shift and transition to your new self. Every day brings new opportunities, and every week presents a chance to do better than the last. You'll be amazed at the incredible changes you'll achieve when a month turns into a year.
We live in a world where quick fixes and instant gratification are the norm, but Awakening is neither fast nor easy. It's a slow process that requires determination and patience. Minor improvements may seem insignificant, but they add up over time. Remember that even drops of water can eventually become an ocean.
Moderation is a vital principle for personal growth. Many ponder why moderation is necessary in life. The answer lies in the fact that excessive greed and indulgence can taint our egos and provide us with a fleeting mirage of happiness. We're all too familiar with the transience of these indulgences, often leading to discomfort. As Robert Burton aptly said, 'Eating with moderation is a lifetime effort.' Creating a space that feels like a sanctuary, a haven where you can find tranquility, is crucial for attaining a harmonious life.
Killing Spiders
I eliminate spiders, flies, and ants, but lately, I've grown uneasy about killing any living creature. My conscience is awakening, and I wonder where this unease comes from. It's an emotional aspect of my Awakening, but I'm slowly learning. I can't help but think of Hollywood movies where enormous aliens crush humans like ants. In a way, I'm an alien too.
However, I still need to clean my house, remove spider webs, and kill the culprits. Being present and intentional would mean removing spider webs and catching spiders to relocate them outside. But I need more time and have other things to do. Shouldn't life be more meaningful than anything else?
Changing one's character is complex, and the power of habit holds a lot of truth. When we repeat something, our brains rewire themselves. Learning to be kind and not kill bugs overnight is impossible. It takes time, gradual changes, and awareness to awaken our conscience.
I do at least one good deed each day. For example, I transport spiders from the house, fill up the hummingbird feeder, and water dry plants. It may seem like a small achievement, but over time, I've learned that my slow and gradual change of habits leads to real change. Someday, I will be able to efficiently and habitually do kind things, and I will have become kind.
The little things make us more present; by doing them, we finally create space for ourselves to appear.
"If one oversteps the bounds of moderation, the greatest pleasures cease to please." Epictetus